A few months ago, a Child Life Specialist who I work closely with and I discussed talking about feelings. She assumed I'm good at this because I talk about feelings all day long—most days at work, and often with colleagues and friends who come to me to talk through difficult emotions. I laughed and said, "Yes, I spend all day talking to people about their emotions; that's easy. Talking about my emotions is something else altogether." If I were to gather a room full of social workers together, I'd be willing to bet the same would be true for many of us.
But now that a worldwide crisis has hit, we're forced to face at least some of our emotions on a daily basis in order to manage our own mental health and coping. For me, as someone with a mental illness (major depressive disorder), I have to be conscious not only of my treatment (medication and therapy adherence on a routine schedule) but also how I am tapping into my own coping mechanisms. As we ask in our field, how are they working for me? In addition to the struggles with depression I typically deal with, which can be amplified by isolation and hopelessness if I let them, I also struggle with a feeling that many people are confronting now, especially those with disorders: anxiety.
One tool we can use to help us manage anxiety is mindfulness, as it can help us to focus on the present moment and stop perseverating on the past and the future. There are a number of free tools out there right now that can be helpful with this: Mindful.org has a page of free resources, including articles and meditations. MindwellU has a 30-day mindfulness challenge that can encourage you to slow down a few times a day.
Another tool that can be helpful is to put the experience we are all having in a cognitive frame that makes sense for you. In the first episode of her podcast, Unlocking Us, Brene Brown speaks about something she labels "FFTs" for "_______ First Times", and she shares that the ability to normalize experiences that are foreign to us, like going through a pandemic, helps us realize that our responses, like anxiety and fear, are typical. This helps us put the experience into perspective and reality-check our expectations. In this way, Brown gives us a tool with which to respond to the FFTs we keep experiencing during this crisis, so that we can stop reacting to the experience and start living again.
Since we talk about going back to the social work basics in times of crisis, it doesn't hurt to mention the self-care basics when dealing with feelings of anxiety, stress, and worry: